For things to reveal themselves to us, we need to be ready to abandon our views about them.

Your relationships will last longer if you are mindful of the other person. 

•  Pay attention to those around you. Stay curious, attentive, and interested.
• Listen to the other person and practice GIVE even if you aren’t interested in what they’re saying.
• Don’t multitask; give your friends your full attention when with them.
• Remain in the present. Listen without planning what to say next.
• Let go of focusing on yourself.
• Be open and willing to hear new information from the other person.
• Notice any judgments you have and let them go (nonjudgmental)

•  Replace judgment with description. Focus on fact, not opinion.
• Don’t assume or interpret what others are thinking. Check the facts. Ask questions. Remember that you aren’t a mind reader.
• Avoid questioning others’ intentions unless you’re given factual reason to.
• Give other people the benefit of the doubt. 
• Remember: everyone is doing the best that they can at any given moment.

•  Interact with the people around you. Fully participate.
• Go with the flow and let go of control in the conversation.
• Remain in the present. Pay close attention to the activity at hand and the conversation taking place one-mindfully.